Coming out of the closet? The gay scene can be daunting…

I can remember coming out at the age of 16, I know I had it easy. There were laws on equality in place, the law on civil partnerships had been passed and in the media there were increasing numbers of LGBT role-models. It’s still terrifying though! Since then I’ve met people in a whole host of situations. Gay men who were married with children and decided they could no longer live in that way, older single gay men who hadn’t come out to friends and were living a double life, younger gay men who felt unable to sustain a relationship through fear that their parents may find out, the list goes on…

If you’ve not come out, no matter what your reasons or situation is, it can be easy to seek refuge in the comfort of hook-ups applications and websites that promote discreet and quick satisfaction. The truth of the matter is that if I were still in the closet, perhaps with a wife and children, and I were using a hook-up apps then I’d never want to come out. Not because I had everything I wanted, quite the opposite. I wouldn’t want to come out as gay for the primary reason that the image these applications portray of the “gay world” can be depressing. Why on earth would I want to join that world? These applications, of course, have their uses and we certainly wouldn’t want to dismiss them. I’ll be honest, I’ve used them. They can be great and bring some exciting opportunities. However, more often than not, you’re submerged into an environment of instant sexual gratification. It’s that image and the things that go with that which are enough, on their own, to scare people back into the closet.

One of the main reasons we had for developing the Omyx Club was the basic need for something more engaging, accessible and contemporary. For those of us who are either happily partnered or single and looking for something a little more serious, there’s not a lot out there! So, if you are in the closet and turned-off by the idea of the gay scene, then I’d urge you to take a bit more time to look at what the Omyx Club is doing. We’re here for gay men to meet like-minded individuals in a civilised, professional and exciting environment, without the clichés or seediness that currently exists.

You can join us free today, uploading a profile picture is optional and all profiles are reviewed by our team before they’re approved. Only other members of the Omyx Club are able to view your profile and if you ever have any concerns or questions then you can always get in touch with us via email, Facebook or Twitter.